What? This certainly can’t be true! In the Indian scenario that was the case some time back, but things are changing now, but I am surprised that European males also think so.

Men are men. Their psyche remains the same. They wont mind extra earnings but the house and the kids still are very much a woman’s domain. I guess the women have also realised that it is better to do one job really well rather than try 10 different things and feeling guilty about not doing any of it well.

@hmm...then all this talk about equality of women’s rights is loosing battle?

Thats just so gross! Men are sooooo stupid :9 and i guess women are stupid-er cuz v falll for them :P

I’d hate to think that guys think this way. I’d bash my guy if he were to come and say this to me...murder for sure! LOL

@Sharmila, an intelligent man won’t say it...but simply expect it!! But, yes even I was suprised that most men actually want their women to be home-makers. I always that otherwise

Thats what. Im not home-maker material...i’ll just tell him find someone else :P LOL! Aaaah, men are stupid.

This survey doesnt show anything about their bedroom act.They wants the most traditional wife outside,but most modern technician wife on their BED.Its a bed affair,which they want uptodate.

why can’t men think beyond the bedroom affair??

LOl, Nishi I too keep wondering if any men can relate to any thing without the bedroom angle.

Some perceptions about men may be wrong when it comes to the bedroom angle. Most men would like an unconventional or untraditional wife in the bedroom. After all not all men are missionaries and some women may appreciate that too. :D

men have very little brain when compared to women ( iam not speaking scientifically but they are brought up dat way), so obviously a broader out look would be the last think any gal must expect from a guy:)

What’s shocking is that such stats are coming from the supposed-to-be more liberal part of the globe.

This makes me feel better actually that Indian women aren’t the only ones :)

However I liked the figure about what women the most of men - Listen to what i say :))))

@yeah! agree with u Deepa.

So the role of a wife is same more or less across the globe...atleast the expected role...on a lighter note traditional Bharatiya Nari who should take care of the homefront is here to saty!! No wonder Ekta Kapoor is doing such a rocking business :->)!!

Why do people attach so negative thoughts with the word ”traditional”?
Being independant,working and ultra-modern does not mean that the lady should avoid houshold duties. There is no wrong in a man/ husband if he expects some care and duties towards the kids from his sweet lady. Well, domination by male partner is not at all good. But there is no harm in being being a traditional good mother/wife at home and smart and modern in the workplace.

Sasmita... I have never wanted to attach any stigma to the word traditional, in fact I have specified that I am saying this on a lighter note...here by traditional I wanted to point towards Ekta’s so called swish, swarovski studded sari clad bahus, who take care of the homes, but are always scheming against each other. Nobody is saying anything about the caring and understanding husbands, but sadly in most cases the expectation becomes sky-high. And even you have stated that a person should be a traditional good mother/wife at home, and smart and modern at the work place...that itself suggests the dual role a woman is always expected to play!

The article pertains to the survey conducted outside India. Commentators are mostly Indians. There is a wide gap in perception.

Indian men had ”Gharwali” and ”Baharwali” concept, which needs no elaboration. With time, the mentality changed and working women were accepted. With that acceptance came the change in thinking. Men are ready to share. What to say about men, even in-laws prefer working women now a days. Desiring a homely wife, in my humble opinion, is a thing of the past.

Is there really a wide gap in perception? Do you mean to say Indian men no longer want ”homely wifes”...it is the Europeans who want it now?? That’s interesting

It is my humble opinon, lady.

Amazing no one comes up with statistics about what kind of men women want these days!
Why have only roles and expectations defined for women get much publicity in media?
Be it Ekta or other media, its the media which have made women prisoners of their various images!
Ground reality is different, go to any city all over the world - men and women can work hard to achieve their dreams and break many a glass ceilings. They can juggle many a roles. Roles are no longer defined on the basis of gender.

@Yeah, my sentiments exatly Madhuri and that is why I was suprised when i saw this survey..and it set me thinking

Hi Madhuri, the source of this article also states figures related to what women seek in men. Topping the list is ’listen to what I say’ followed by financial stability.

Even I agree with u that these days roles are longer gender based.

Hi Madhuri, the source of this article also states figures related to what women seek in men. Topping the list is ’listen to what I say’ followed by financial stability.

Even I agree with u that these days roles are longer gender based.

I have met quite a few young girls who said that they want a man who listens to what they say and cares for them. None insisted that the man must follow what they say. Why don’t men listen, just listen to them?

No matter how much women try, they will not be able to change men either by lectures or by changing themselves. Most of the women commenters here are decidedly feminists. Good for men! They can bring a 'self-liberated' woman home from a disco or work, may also go in for a live-in relationship with them because such women would be only too willing. But when it comes to marriage, men would prefer a traditional women, not necessary conservative.

Right... I for one would not find sleeping around with ultra-modern women, but when it comes to giving birth to my kids and raising them, I wouldn't want such a woman to play the part.

I don't want my kids to have a mom who comes home stoned at night on booze and drugs and I am sure this is applicable to all men all across the world whether it is in the US, Europe or India.

Wow...congrats! Clap ur hands gurlz...here comes the typical Indian educated and emaniciapted MCP who cannot take any comment in the right spirit, and the moment he sees anything dealing with traditions his sense of ego takes over, and all women who try to present the real scenario with a balanced judgement becomes labelled as feminist!! As Sharmila have mentioned somewhere else ”POWER PUFF BOYS>>>HERE THEY COME!!!!!!” A woman is considered liberated if she goes to a Disc...and traditional if she wants to stay at home...very intersting indeed :P)

Why are you hurt? He has given his line of thinking for the female he desires. It is his opinion : As much valid as your opinion.

@Reshmi

A woman is considered liberated if she goes to a Disc...and traditional if she wants to stay at home...

Right. Include the traditional woman as some one who not only stays at home, but waits for Pati Parameshwar with sari-pallu on head and who removes his shoes without a word, make dinner for him and fulfills his carnal desires at night, wakes up before everyone at home and makes tea and breakfast ready by the time her husband wakes up, gets the kids ready for school, does all the household chores and then again waits for her husband just like she did in the previous evening to repeat the duties.

That's the ideal woman for me, that's the symbol of Bharatiya nari. Not someone who is a footloose wears crass clothes, and an impolite ranter. Such women are good for one night stands or a short term affair.

I am proud to be what you feminists term as MCP and believe it or not, one day when your parents will make you parade in front of a complete stranger like a commodity to convince him to marry you, you shall remember my comment here.

@Yash, good luck to you, hope you find the woman of your dreams ( I would certainly feel sorry for her!). Sorry to dissapoint you, but not all women are paraded in the marriage market

@ Yash, I am already married with an 8 year old kid. Thankfully, my parents(though they belong to a generation before you...I guess!) never had the regressive mindset that you are talking about here. I was never paraded or exposed in front of unknown people as a commodity when they judge my value in the market. I had an arranged marriage by the way...lest you get ideas that I had flings with n number of boys. Which century are you living in yaar? I shudder to think of the deplorable state the girl you are talking of, you will treat her like a doormat or a glorified maid for that matter. What is the need of getting married then? Hire a sophisticated one fronm the agency, I am sure they will serve your purpose.

Its people like you who have branded ” Bharatiya Nari” in this fashion. How long will you hoodwink yourself? Wake up, the Indian woman is way ahead of your dreams...

Still, if you think and loudly proclaim to honestly act in the way you have suggested, my earnest wishes are with you. But be careful, don’t ever mention to her that you have given such a statement in Instablogs! I can lay a bet that the girl will surely think thrice before saying yes to your proposal :P)!!

@Reshmi, kudos to you :D and yes, Yash u better watch out...u are not looking for a wife buddy, but a maid who will cook, mend/ sleep with you!

@Nishi

For me the definition of wife is a buddy who will cook, mend, sleep and share with me. What's your idea of a wife? Someone who doesn't cook, mend, sleep with her husband but wastes her life on idle gossip, socializing and ranting embellished stories of tours and trips, fights with husband, and doesn't believe in the concept of listening to a male (like a feminist)?

@ Yash, each person has his/her idea of how their mates would be.

Certainly sharing, caring and loving (and not just sleeping with ur partner…sounds a tad crass, at-least to me) and respecting each other would top my list.

Bingo Nishi! I really want to congartulate Yash for his brilliant summing up of a ”feminist”!! I wonder how many male bloggers on Insta think like him? Ahem...to each his own...I should stop poking my big nose everytime:P))